Love & Let Love…
Ten years and six months and I wouldn’t trade a minute of it.
Admittedly I look young for my age… or do others look old for their age, I don’t know. When I get asked how long I have been with my husband, a question I seem to get asked a lot, I get the same repertoire of reactions. “Wow!” “You must have been a baby!” “How old are you?” And one of my favorites- “that’s great…” as their mind undoubtedly wonders to questions like “I wonder if she feels like she missed out on anything?”
It’s an interesting thing to watch, how people react to you choosing your mate early in life and only ever being with that person. It’s something everyone would welcome if it came his or her way. However, when speaking to someone who didn’t happen upon love in the same way it’s obvious that they feel a little sorry for you and all the proverbial things you “missed out on.” Often a sentiment they verbalize.
So the question remains, do I feel like I missed out? To which I undoubtedly answer, absolutely not!
Everything awesome that has happened to me in the last 10 years has been shared with my best friend. Anything trying that has happened to me in the last 10 years has been eased because I have had someone to share its burden. Having a person remain constant in your life is a blessing, not a curse.
I feel like we fit into a special place in the world of love, those of us who have had one lasting serious relationship. We are connected. We are often made to feel like we don’t understand our friends when they’re crying over an ended relationship because what would we know about that? Just because we haven’t suffered break up after break up doesn’t mean we don’t understand heartache; it doesn’t mean that we haven’t felt heartache. We are not immune to imperfections and hurt within our own relationships, and we can empathize with you through your hurt.
For our grandparents, it was very common to fall in love young and marry young and never know any different. I see that coming back around, as I personally know a handful of couples that have been together since they were teenagers. It is so common for relationships to not last that when they do, you are actually the odd man out.
Something I often hear people say when they’ve dated a lot and have finally found “the one,” or just found him or her later in life, is that they wish they had more time with them. So it is interesting that these very people are the first to make people like me feel as though we have missed out on something. Maybe there is more to life than always searching for someone better when you have someone great right in front of you. Maybe there is something to be said about dating around or being single for a while. Everyone walks a different path; neither can be better than the other because they are each unique. Our situations and experiences in life shape us… if we all walked identical paths what fun would that be?